I say relationship and most of you will immediately assume I’m talking about a significant other. But what about all the other relationships we have in our lives? What about our parents, siblings, friends, coworkers? Each of these people require a specific relationship.
I've been asking myself why some relationships can be so hard. Why are some relationships so difficult to maintain? At 36 years old I want to start keeping the relationships that I've put so much effort into. I want relationships that last a lifetime. I'm tired of feeling like people grow in and out of one another; that almost seems selfish, as if the relationship was only worth the effort while it was convenient. Simple acts or words expressed can derail beautiful relationships. Why? Why can't we just get along, talk it out, express ourselves?
A couple of months ago I threw away a friendship, mentally anyway. I'd given up on it. Recently I found out some history about the person I had given up on. It's had my heart sick. I keep thinking if I had only known, I would have had more patience, empathy, I would have given more and expected less. I'm finally figuring out that we're not always going to understand what's happening behind the scenes, or know the dark secrets that let you see inside the others soul. I don't think we're supposed to understand. We are simply supposed to be there for one another.
I think the answer is selflessness. By definition it means to be concerned more with the needs and wishes of others than with one's own self. Relationships take a lot of effort. They take understanding and compassion. When you find yourself questioning why you even try to maintain a relationship, think of these things. Remember why you built a relationship with this person in the first place. What did you like about them? What sparked your interest? How have they helped you, inspired you, or changed your world for the better? Then remember that we're all human.
We're all struggling with something in this world. We all have our happy face that we show to everyone even when we feel like crying. On the days you wonder why you try, put yourself and your needs aside and remember why you tried in the first place.
Each of us have something beautiful to share if we can only be treated and treat others with kindness, empathy and patience. We can all truly bloom into who we were meant to become! Don't walk away from those who helped mold you. When they are down, remember it’s your turn to help mold them.
Cheers my friends to a beautiful future for us all!!